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Obscured By Me

January 29, 2012 Leave a comment

Raising Ire

August 12, 2011 Leave a comment

I’m a member of several C++ programming groups on LinkedIn.com. Because I’m passionate about programming and software engineering, I like to share links to what I think are interesting C++ articles to the groups.

Bam! Out of the blue, I get this BS “warning” from a hot shot moderator of one of the groups:

After challenging this self-important dude to point out some examples of “off topic” postings, to define excessive “posting frequency“, and to provide the name of my accuser, I received silence.

Out of curiosity, I contacted the group owner and asked WTF was going on. He checked into the situation and said that I wasn’t posting too frequently (of course, there IS no rule about posting “too frequently“) and that he enjoyed my posted links. Nevertheless, I quit the group since there are many other C++ groups to contribute to without being hassled by a power monger and control freak. Life is too short.

Via a simple analysis of the content in the “scary” warning message, I arrived at the conclusion that the dude was reading this bogus blog and got pissed off cuz he is either a BM or a BM wannabe – and the shoe fit. So, I sent a message to Mr. God and suggested:

“If my blog upsets you, then don’t read it.”

Of course, since he didn’t admit to it, I don’t know fer sure if Mr. little Hitler stumbled onto this blog and blew his stack . But, as you know, BD00 is prone to making stuff up and bouts of wild speculation. D’oh!

Childlike Humility

July 31, 2011 1 comment

Sergeant Schultz Defense

July 28, 2011 1 comment

We’ve heard it before, we’re hearing it now from formerly unassailable media mogul Rupert Murdoch, and we’ll hear it again from other self-important papal figures. Yawn.

What will we hear, you ask? Well, it’s the ubiquitous Sergeant Schultz defense: “I hear nothing, I see nothing, I know nothing“. But ya know, the hot shot dudes who whip out this get-out-of-jail-free card may actually be right. If they “skillingfully” setup their borg’s structure and culture so that they can’t know, then they won’t.


Humility Follwed By Hubris

In contrast to yesterday’s post on CEO humility, this post about the opposite – CEO (and board of directors) hubris.

In the usatoday.com article, “CEOs reap huge payouts in 2011, corporate filings show“, the following stats are printed:

U.S. workers averaged $46,742 in 2010, up 2.6% from 2009. A June GovernanceMetrics analysis found average compensation among S&P 500 CEOs rose to $12 million in 2010, up 18% from 2009 — and that’s not counting the potential multimillion-dollar value of stock or stock options, which are granted at set prices and provide holders profits as stock values rise.

So, let’s see. The average “Board Of Directors” thinks that the average CEO is worth $12M/$47K = 255 DICs. Oh well. Who am I to judge what “Boards of Direlectors” decide they pay CEOs? Nevertheless, others do pass judgment:

“It’s insane,” says the Value Alliance’s Eleanor Bloxham. “Corporate boards have bought into the idea that they have to pay up for performance. There’ll be more of the same until institutional investors decide CEOs aren’t worth what they’re being paid.”

Alas, I don’t see the day arriving soon where “institutional investors decide CEOs aren’t worth what they’re being paid“. Do you?

Concrete Crown

July 14, 2011 1 comment

This is a rare sighting, so ya gotta check it out: The Humility Imperative: CEOs, Keep Your Arrogance in Check. Reformed CEOcaholic Dave Balter starts out his plea with:

This is a message to every entrepreneur, CEO, and leader: Dig a hole, throw your ego into it, and pour concrete on top. Find humility instead. – Dave Balter

Defense Mechanism

July 13, 2011 3 comments

As I’ve written before, I love the Vital Smarts guys. In “Confronting Workplace Sarcasm“, Kerry Patterson writes:

I—like most of my close friends—developed keen skills in the use of sarcasm and irony. It was a huge part of my identity. Then, one day, after my wife stumbled awkwardly and I retorted, “Smooth move, did you enjoy the trip?” she responded: “You know what? If you never again use sarcasm—until the day I die—that would be just fine with me. I don’t like it, the kids don’t like it, and there’s no place for it in our home.”

That incident caused Mr. Patterson to pause and reflect on his recurring, habitual behavior. It led to an epiphany and change in behavior:

I learned that it’s actually quite difficult to defend your right to take cheap shots, dole out insults, and cut people down—all in the name of humor. Trust me. You never want to be the defense attorney when sarcasm goes to court. So, maybe I needed to reconsider my stance. Perhaps, getting a laugh at the expense of a coworker, colleague, friend, or loved one isn’t nearly as endearing as I had once thought it was. And so, I said goodbye to that part of me and my wife has been ever grateful.

Hmmm. Without going into details, the above paragraph makes me feel guilty. Thus, as an ego defense mechanism to ease the pain, I’m feelin’ the need to be skeptical that Kerry has actually kicked the habit .

How about you? Do you sense a feeling of guilt and the associated ego-need to rationalize it away? Nah. No way, right?

Transparent And Unpretentious

“A censor is a man who knows more than he thinks you ought to.” – Granville Hicks

While reading Hugh MacLeod’sEvil Plans: Having Fun on the Road to World Domination“, this passage rang my bell:

As the number of daily hits on this blog has grown from a paltry 5 to a massive 10+ people per day (LOL!), I’m finding that I’m asking myself these kinds of questions more often:

  • “Should I write about this?”,
  • “Should I say that?”,
  • “What if this comes back to haunt me?”,
  • “Should I take the sting out of the words?”
  • “Should I renounce the usage of my stereotype acronyms?”
  • “Am I pissing off everybody who stops by?”

At the end of each of these internal mini-battles, in most cases I come to my senses and say: “Suck it up you wuss and keep blabbing away. What if Darwin, Galileo, Jesus, etc, kept their traps shut out of fear?“. Hell, I don’t have any delusions about changing the world like those dudes – but I would if I had the source code (and it was written in C++).

“I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.” – Bill Cosby

“I don’t know the key to success, but another key to failure is trying to piss everybody off.” – Bulldozer00

You Talkin’ Bout Me?

Since the world obviously revolves around me, I’m surprised that there’s no @bulldozer0 in Jeff’s tweet.

Strategy? There’s no strategic planning involved; it comes naturally. But thanks for giving me the benefit of the doubt.

No Going Back

April 22, 2011 Leave a comment

So, what does Steve Taylor mean by “pathological over development of the ego“? I think he means the obsessive desire for power, status, and material wealth regardless of its cost to other people and nature. What do you think he means? Do you even agree with his assessment that the world’s collective psyche needs to transition to a new, enlightened state?

Steve recommends practicing meditation and it’s sibling, mindfulness, as the best means of quieting the mind and loosening the iron grip of the ego. Too bad I suck at both of them and, for some strange reason, I choose not to make the time to practice them. I’m too occupied with searching for, and hoarding,  intellectual knowledge to complete myself – even though I know that the effort won’t pay off.

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