Posts Tagged ‘Byron Katie’

Two Opposing Ideas

October 3, 2013 1 comment

If you didn’t already know it, I’m a fan of the C++ programming language. Of course, not everybody feels the same way. There are many smart people who are among the “haters“.

C++ is a horrible language. It’s made more horrible by the fact that a lot of substandard programmers use it, to the point where it’s much much easier to generate total and utter crap with it. – Linus Torvalds

When I read anti-C++ tirades like Linus Torvalds’ emotionally charged attack, it always stings a little at first. But then I eventually step back from the “emotional-me” and remember (thanks to the teachings of Byron Katie and Eckart Tolle) that the world will never be the way I “demand!” it to be. The length of time it takes me to disengage from abstract thought-storms like these and return to earth is proportional to how deeply I’m attached to one side of the debate stomping around in my head.

“The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposing ideas in mind at the same time and still retain the ability to function.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald

Java  creator James Gosling, Haskell‘s Bartosz Milewski, and Go creator Rob Pike are three of the more prominent people in the anti-C++ camp.  As expected, they have agendas to promote: advocating their own favorite programming languages at the expense of C++.

Ironically, these rants by smart and well known people can be construed as tributes to C++. That’s probably why this is one of my favorite Bjarne Stroustrup quotes:

There are just two kinds of languages: the ones everybody complains about and the ones nobody use.

Cpp Siege

They Do Us!

Dependence Over Autonomy

September 21, 2012 Leave a comment

Matthew Gill’s “Accountant’s Truth” provides a fascinating analysis and expose of the attitudes and culture of the accounting industry through a series of in-depth interviews with practicing accountants. As I’m reading the book, I’m using the Kindle’s marvelous “share” feature to tweet snippets like this one out into the ether:

Now, compare this excerpt with the following pair of tweets from one of my fave spiritual teachers, Byron Katie:

Interesting, don’t you think?

Thinking Styles

April 16, 2012 4 comments

I used to think: “DAMN IT! IT SHOULDN’T BE THIS WAY!” for just about every observation that I judged to be a “problem“. Now I think, It shouldn’t be this way – but it is – lol for most observations that I judge to be problems. Of course, there are still far too many things that cause me to red-line, but it’s an incremental, iterative, and continuous learning experience.

If I’m lucky enough, I might even gravitate up to this fully, non-judgmental, thought-style: “It is this way, because it got this way“. However, I don’t think I’ll ever make it into the effortless thinking realm of Buddha/Lao Tzu/Eckhart Tolle/Byron Katy:It is this way because it’s exactly the way it should be“.

How about you, dear reader? What’s your predominant thinking style? Has it been changing with age? Are you happy with it?

Self Inquiry

November 28, 2010 2 comments

I used to follow a bunch of spiritual and motivational teachers on Twitter, but I’ve “unfollowed” most of them since I didn’t connect much with their tweets – meh. It reached the point where I equated their mostly-boring tweet floods with spam. However, brite2briter hits the sweet spot because her tweets invite her tweetees to practice “self inquiry” like the more well known Byron Katie (Is it absolutely true?) and Ramana Maharshi (Who am I?).

Recently, brite2briter fired off a couple of tweets that hit home. Here they are, along with my replies:

Do these examples do anything fer ya? Too far out and new agey? Meh?

Accept And Continue, Or Accept And Change

October 22, 2010 Leave a comment

If you’ve acquired a “bad rep” in a group, regardless of whether you think it’s deserved, it doesn’t matter how you present issues, problems, ideas, or solution options to anyone who perceives you as a “bad” person. Your ideas could have the potential to increase the group’s material or spiritual wealth, but……… fuggedabout getting any help from the “good” people. The “good” people are, by definition, those in positions of power who control the resources of production.

Once you understand the key principle of bad_rep == no_help, the first thing to do is get over any frustration and angst that you have from being “unfairly” adorned (how dare they!) with a scarlet letter. It’s out of your control, bozeltine. The next thing to do is to decide whether:

  1. to continue on being authentic, reinforcing your “bad rep” perception (if so-be-it) and knowing full well the consequences of your M.O.
  2. to attempt to force yourself into something you’re not. You know, morph into a “good” person so that the “bad rep” perception slowly dissolves in the minds of other “good” people.

I recommend continuing on and doing your thang as only you can do. You see, once your “bad rep” image gets burned into the UCB of one or more “good” people, it can never be erased. That’s because…… and here comes the usual acronym-laden rant that you may have been waiting for…… “good” BMs, CGH’s, SCOLs and BOOGLs are hoarders. They can add images and perceptions to their UCBs, but since they’re infallible, they are incapable of periodically re-assessing its truthiness and cleaning house. Like the Hotel California, “stuff can check in but it can never leave“.

I hate people who think in terms of “us and them”. You know, people like me. – Bulldozer00

Late Breaking News: After I wrote and queued up this vitriolic post, I discovered that one of my heroes, Scott Berkun, wrote a similar, but much more elegant, less offensive, and insightful one. Check it out here: “How To Keep Your Mouth Shut“, and be sure to watch the classic video snippet he points you to. It’s arguably the best caricature of a BM ever created.

Fault Finder

February 15, 2010 Leave a comment

Byron Katie once said something like “the mind’s job is to find problems“. I don’t have many skills, but fault-finding is one of my most finely honed talents. Because of my engineering training and genetic design, I can find fault with any person, place, thing, or situation. I put myself right up there on Everest with Don Rickles.

The trouble with constant fault finding is that one spends a huge portion of one’s precious time criticizing instead of creating. It’s a real tragedy because we were all put on this earth to create. The ability to create is naturally built in to each of us right out of the box.

Creation is an intimate act of communication between the creator and the created.

Obsessive fault finders are afraid of creating and exposing their own creations for fear of being criticized themselves. No one likes to be told that their baby is ugly but, au contraire, many people love to point out flaws in other people’s fugly children.

One way to break the fault finder mind set is to take the plunge. Stop oppressing yourself, do what’s natural, start creating stuff (a blog, a song, a painting, a computer program, a book, a company, a community, a tribe), and hoist it out there for all to see. The more you create and expose of yourself, the more you dismantle the fault finder mindset and the more liberated you become. Try it, especially if you’re an incorrigible fault finder like me.

Defense Is War

September 23, 2009 Leave a comment

I love Byron Katie because her wisdom never ceases to amaze me. Check out this quote from A Thousand Names For Joy:

Defense is the first act of war. When people used to say, “Katie, you don’t listen,” I would immediately bristle and respond, “Of course I listen! How dare you say that! Who do you think you are? I listen!” I didn’t realize that I was the one making war by defending myself. And I was the one who could end it. It doesn’t take two people to end war; it takes only one.

Like most of what Katie says, this one really hits home with me because I often (waaaay too often) automatically and instinctively flip into defensive mode when someone criticizes me. The problem is that I don’t have a kloo on how to eradicate this pervasively destructive behavior. It’s so ingrained into my being that it would take a miracle to overcome this malady. However, Katie is a beacon of hope. If you read about her 10 year struggle with debilitating depression and her miraculous transformation, you’ll understand what I mean.

Spiritual Teachers

March 10, 2009 1 comment

For many moons, I’ve been educating myself on the topic of spiritual growth in order to become a better person and experience more peace in my life. Here are my teachers (so far).


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