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Death Wish

November 20, 2011 2 comments

Over the span of many years, a handful of people have told me that they admire (lol) my courage for “speaking truth” to power. But it’s not like that. First, I speak my version of the so-called “truth“. Second, I don’t “speak to“, I “write about” power. Third, there’s absolutely no courage involved. The only way I can describe this so-called talent is that it’s a weird “death wish” type of affliction.

The feelings that rush forth when I spew potentially hurtful (but maybe indirectly helpful?) ideas and assertions are excitement, exhilaration, and aliveness. But wait, that’s not all. Feelings of guilt, isolation, and mostly, fear, also weave themselves into the witches brew. D’oh! I hate when that happens.

Even though it’s (always) about me, enough about me. What about you, dear reader? What’s your story? Do you write, speak, to, about, power? What’s your style, and do you think it’s effective? What feelings emerge in real-time when you skirt the edge of the prevailing power culture’s “appropriateness” threshold?

In addition to fellow DICsters, I’m especially interested in those readers, if any, who are actually in positions of power in a hierarchy. In your particular case, does power speak truth to power? There’s gotta be a couple of you out there willing to share, no?

Reporting Delay

January 26, 2011 Leave a comment

The figure below shows a generic Bulldozer00 model (which means it’s outright wrong) of what happens ‘tween the time one experiences an “important” event to the time at which one communicates to others about the event. What’s an important event? It’s something that has meaning – which implies that it is person-specific. One person’s important event is another’s trivial yawner.

The length of the reporting delay (RD) is critical. If it’s too short, then one can suffer from foot-in-mouth syndrome like Bulldozer00. If it’s too long, with infinity being the limit, then the lack of disclosure can eat away at one’s psyche and cause stress and ill-health.

In dysfunctional corpricracies, the unspoken tool of “fear imposition” keeps the RD of many DICsters at infinity, or in layman’s words – STFU. What’s the nature of your RD?

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Caught Chetan Again!

January 14, 2011 Leave a comment

It’s sad, so sad. It’s a sad, sad situation. And it’s gettin’ more absurd. – Elton John

Sometimes, actually, a lot of times, I like to commiserate with like-minded people (isn’t that what community is all uh-boot?). Thus, when I recently hooked up with new e-friend and author of “Why Your Boss Is Programmed To Be A DICtator“, Chetan Dhruve, we commiserated about the current stagnant state of leadership in the business world. In one of our exchanges, Mr. Dhruve asked:

May I request a favor. Could you please post your review of my book on Amazon.com? This is because many readers email me their comments directly after reading the book – with the result that the number of reviews is low (only 3 reviews currently). In many cases, readers are afraid to put up reviews for fear of being being found out and victimized at their workplaces, and hence don’t want to take any chances. In fact, many people have told me that they are afraid to even place the book on their workplace desks in full view, simply because of the book’s title. – Chetan Dhruve

Of course, that statement sent a shiver down my spine, but I did what he asked because – a man’s gotta do what he’s gotta do (for me, replace the word “man” with “child“). Upon further dialog, Chetan continued on with a couple of other scary vignettes:

A friend of mine (in the US) who loved the book bought 10 copies to give to clients. He then had the thought: “What if my clients feel that I’m implying they are bad bosses? Maybe I will lose their contracts.” So instead of giving the books to clients, he gave the books to relatives. He told me all this saying, “The book’s title will scare people, and it’s going to be a problem for you.” Indeed, he has proven to be correct.

A similar thing happened with another friend of mine. She gave a copy of my book as a gift to a friend of hers, whereupon the friend was instantly offended and got defensive saying, “I promise I will try hard to be a good boss.” This was even before reading the back cover of the book!

The irony is that the book doesn’t blame individuals but the system. And these gut-reaction behaviors only prove the point that we have dictatorship systems at our workplaces. It’s terrible, absolutely terrible, to know that people are frightened to simply have such a book on their table! I didn’t anticipate that the fear levels would be so high, that too in a free country.

I hate to sound like a know-it-all (well, maybe not), but I coulda told Chetan of the reality of his last sentence before he shockingly discovered it for himself. No matter how much one abstracts an anti-hierarchy message and directs it away from specific people, people above level 0 in a hierarchy are going to get offended at the slightest hint that you resonate with Chetan’s blasphemous message. After all, hierarchy has a sacred origin and religion has always been at the top of the heap when it comes to instilling fear into people, no?.

The statements that make people mad are the ones they worry might be believed. I suspect the statements that make people maddest are those they worry might be true. – Paul Graham

Truth And Fear

May 1, 2010 1 comment

The association of truth and fear, which would be highly artificial at most, is particularly inappropriate in the minds of those who do not know what truth is. All this could mean is that you are arbitrarily associating something beyond your awareness with something you do not want. It is evident, then, that you are judging  something of which you are totally unaware. You have set up this strange situation so that it is impossible to escape from it without a guide who does know what your reality is. The purpose of this guide is to merely remind you. – A Course In Miracles

Alrighty then. Let’s break this passage down, analyze it to death, and see how much of it applies to me and you.

  • The association of truth and fear, which would be highly artificial at most, is particularly inappropriate in the minds of those who do not know what truth is : this statement applies directly to me. I have no clue of what (the) truth is. (you too?)
  • You are arbitrarily associating something beyond your awareness with something you do not want: I do associate things beyond my awareness with fear – which is something I don’t want. (you too?)
  • You are judging  something of which you are totally unaware: Since I like to make stuff up, I’m constantly judging stuff I’m not aware of. (you too?)
  • You have set up this strange situation so that it is impossible to escape from it without a guide who does know what your reality is: Ok, I’ll buy into that. But who’s the freakin’ guide? (you wanna know too?)

The purported guide is supposedly: Jesus Christ as channeled through the “A Course In Miracles” author duo. There’s a lot to like in this work but, because I’m not a big fan of organized religion, I’m having a tough time reading more than one or two pages at a time.

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