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Ing-ing My Way Through Life

My twitter bio reads: “Fumbling, bumbling, stumbling, exploring, discovering, and being. So many ings!“. As that “ing-ful” first sentence implies, I’m always poking around for new ideas and alternative ways of looking at various aspects of the world. To BD00, inging one’s way through life is a big part of really living life itself. Life is too short to stop inging. But hey, it’s just badass BD00’s opinion; it doesn’t have to be yours.

When I first discover some novel and interesting work from someone I never heard of before, my levels of excitement and curiosity rise. I then dive a little deeper into the work in an honest attempt at ferreting out and understanding the real foundational substance of the work. If (heaven forbid!) I judge a newly discovered work as “meh“, then I move my attention onward toward the next adventurous expedition. There’s no sense in wasting time on something that doesn’t tingle my nerve endings with new meaning. Again, life is too short, no?

If (heaven forbid!) I judge that a newly discovered work is “good” or “bad“, then I get hooked and my current mental models of the world get rattled to an extent proportional to the work’s influence over me. Hell, my mental model(s) may even move off their concrete foundations a bit. In the areas of systems thinking and institutional behaving, the brilliant works of people like Deming, Ackoff, Argyris, MacGregor, Livingston, Warfield, Powers, Starkermann, Forrester, Meadows, Bateson, and Wheatley have considerably shaped my foundational views.

In the interest of full disclosure, I’ve decided to share with you below the relatively benign (compared to this people-oriented, blasphemous model) state transition diagram model of what I suppose goes on inside BD00’s forever inging mind. As you can surmise, the external behaviors (speaking, writing) that I manifest while dwelling in the “sharing” state are bound to piss some people off. Also notice that, in homage to my man Shakespeare, I have inserted a “pausing” state in the model. It’s purpose, which doesn’t always get fulfilled, is to inhibit “the rush to judgment” malady that we all to some extent exhibit(?).

Essentially, all models are wrong, but some are useful – George Box

What does your thinking model look like? I’m especially interested in hearing from those of you who “think” you have transcended the innate human trait of judging objects – the set of which includes people. What would a world without judging look like? Would it be worth striving toward a world without any judging at all? Is it realistic to think there can be a world where people only judge “non-people” objects? BD00 doesn’t “think” so. D’oh!


  1. Rainee
    November 24, 2013 at 8:07 am

    It is funny but I have been developing a concept in my mind that is a little similar to yours. I would like to (and will eventually) make it into a picture as you do so well. I start with –
    Collaboration – sharing ideas
    Research – getting as much relevant information as possible
    Organisation – analysing the information and putting it into logical chunks
    Presentation – compiling the information or new knowledge in a professional and attractive format
    Realisation – this is the stage where it all happens – it is the whole point of the exercise – doing something to make a difference 🙂
    PS I think my process should be more circular though with collaboration being the hub of the wheel!

    • November 24, 2013 at 8:10 am

      Nice! Thanks for the comment; and go for it Rainee!

  2. December 4, 2013 at 8:16 pm

    I presume you’re coming from the NVC “judgement” angle. I’m sure that Rosenberg said that Judgement is crucial and he’s not advocating getting rid of it entirely, but trying to get us to stop judging others…

    BTW – How did the NVC vids go? Can you please post the link? It’s lost in my tweet stream…

    • December 5, 2013 at 6:26 am

      I had a little twitter altercation over the period of a couple of days with someone who I followed for quite awhile because of the original lure of his altruistic words. After some “evaluation” time, I judged him to be not only a snake oil salesman, but full of himself. Just like me!

      I still haven’t gotten around to watching the full Rosenberg course: http://www.soundstrue.com/shop/Nonviolent-Communication-Online-Training-Course/4235.pd . I bought it for $29.99:

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